The most popular month when it comes to weddings is June, people say that it is because it is the beginning of the warm summer weather, but experts say that the real reason actually goes way back during the Roman times, wherein the diety Juno married the goddess of marriage and childbirth Jupiter. During the Victorian times, however, the reason is that the sixth month of the year is the time when the flowers are more abundant. Then again, it’s always nice to think of weddings since it is such a huge step for a couple and a journey to forever, or so they thought. We’re obviously not here to talk about weddings, in fact, we are here to actually talk about divorce. If June is a month for weddings, which is known to be a union of two people, January, is actually a month for divorce, continue reading to find out more.
WHY IS JANUARY A MONTH OF DIVORCE?
Every beginning has an ending, and in this case, it seems like it is true. The beginning of the month is considered to be a chance for people to start fresh but courts all over the world have revealed that the very first month of the year, is also the month where couples decide to end their relationships.
One of the most common reasons according to marriage counselors is that couples tend to wait for the holidays to be over before they file for their divorce. They don’t want their respective families and relatives talking about it on their reunions and parties which is why it is common for them to do it in the first month of the year. Couples also tend to give one another a chance to change and compromise as well as try to rekindle the romantic spark until the year ends and once another year begins and nothing changed or things got worse, they tend to choose their last resort, which in this case is divorce. According to Barton Goldsmith, a psychotherapist for Psychology Today, most couples want to start fresh, even if that means they have to leave an important chapter behind. January being a cold month could definitely have a double meaning in this case
FIRST MONDAY OF JANUARY – DIVORCE DAY
According to the recent report released by the U.S. News & World Report, December is actually the engagement season and it is sort of self-explanatory, but January is not just considered as the divorce month because people in the United Kingdom also dubbed the first Monday of January as the divorce day. Amicable, which is a divorce support service based in England recently reported that there are actually more than 40,000 people in the entire United Kingdom that searches the word ‘divorce’. According to one of its founders, Katy Daly, the post-holiday season is considered to be an incredibly tricky time for married couples who are having a rough time with one another the past year. In addition to that, are the financial pressure, extended family opinions, and most of all, the unrealistic expectations that could be the secret ingredient to disastrous marriage.
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MONEY AND DIVORCE
Lawyers from all over the world agree that the first Monday of the month of January is the day when couples inquire about divorce. They also believe that one of the main reasons why people decide to end their marriage is because of money. In fact, the number of people saying that they choose to divorce because of financial pressure that is testing their relationships. During the holiday seasons, people are definitely spending more money compared to the other times of the year, which basically adds salt to the wounds of a rocky marriage.
This is despite the fact that divorce could actually cost them a lot of money. A normal rate of divorce is between $15,000-$25,000, and it is not just financially expensive according to Jacqueline Newman, who is a New York City divorce lawyer, it is also emotionally expensive. Which is why she always asks her clients almost every time if they really want to go through it because it could definitely drain their minds and pockets. Newman usually suggests that couples should always try and look for other options because this is something that you can’t turn back. Getting married may seem to be the biggest decision a person would make but get divorce is a whole other story.