“No couple should go to bed angry and sad,” goes the old adage. How good would that be if you are in a relationship which is smooth? Meaning, every single thing is properly placed and there are no arguments? Sounds ideal, right? Well, this is true and it does exist.
We reached out to a Virginia-based couple who have not argued or had any skirmish over 30 years of marriage. Blair Keeley and Hannah are those ‘ideal couples’ who haven’t been in an argument despite numerous challenges. In this blog, we will have a deeper look at their lifestyle and approach to their marital life. Here are some of the untold secrets that Hannah and Blair revealed. According to them, these are the secrets of their happy married life:
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Resolve Everything Before Going to Bed
“Over the years, we have developed a habit of resolving everything before going to bed,” the couple reveals. Blaire and Hannah follow the old adage “No couple should go to bed angry or sad.” Furthermore, the couple suggests that everything that comes up during the day should be discussed before going to bed.
Similarly, they suggest that before going to bed is a time where every skirmish and misunderstanding can be potentially resolved. So, as the first secret, get all of your issues resolved before going to bed.
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Mutual Understanding is the Key
It is as simple as you like. Mutual understanding is the sole key that links couples together. “We mutually cooperate on everything as anything comes up,” says Hannah Keeley who is the mother of seven and have in a marriage with Blair for the last thirty years.
What this means is they make sure that each of the parties is heard and their demands and needs are countered. This marks another secret of the couple who have been in a marital relationship for thirty years, and have never faced any skirmish.
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Expectations Hurt
Another secret of Blaire Keeley and Hannah Keeley’s happy marriage is that they do not expect too much from each other. “I don’t assume what Hannah can do for me. Rather, I always try to figure out what I can do for her,” says Blaire.
So, for a happy marriage, expect less and offer more. This way, you will develop a long-lasting relationship with your significant other.
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Sharing is Caring
Sharing is another untold secret of a happy marriage. “We have been through the worse and the best of our lives,” asserts the ‘ideal couple,” Blaire and Hannah Keeley. The couple further suggests that they “always share every single thing – be it the best or the worst.”
Terming it as a secret of happy marriage, they recommend every couple share their grievances and happy moments. Consequently, your marriage will be strong and long-lasting.